Everyone has needs. This was established many years ago by Abraham Maslow-he developed a hierarchy of needs that everyone needs to meet to have a fully rounded psychological being.
This has since been in every psychology class and book I’ve ever seen or been in, right up into my last class. A bit of background for you: Maslow was a psychologist (he died in 1970) who wrote books, several important papers and developed the pyramid-like needs chart. Physiological needs are at the bottom and self-actualization is at the top.
How The Hierarchy Works
Physiological needs are basic: the things we absolutely need to survive, including reproduction. I don’t think that is necessarily a need, but that’s definitely left up to each individual. I covered my thoughts on that in The Big Decision
However, we all need air. Can’t live without it. Sleep? How’s everyone doing there? Due to my new RA med, Plaquenil, my sleep is all kinds of messed up.
I’ve been a bit cranky because I haven’t been sleeping well, but I’m working on that. I try to lay down or take a nap when I can, or go to bed early when I can’t. It’s very important that everyone gets their rest, because when we don’t, bad things happen. We become forgetful, drained, make bad decisions, and Parenting While Tired is no fun for anyone involved. Meet your needs in this department. You’ll thank yourself later.
Safety. This is a biggie. Everyone needs to feel safe, right? We don’t exactly live in the safest world, unless you live under a rock or in a bubble. I live outside of a large city, and my kids go to pretty big schools. I worry about their safety daily. The Cell Phone Questions still continue. Will Cameron get his cell phone? Probably in time for high school. I hate the idea of him being by himself in a school without his brother, even though it’ll be just a year. What do you do to feel safe?
Love and Belonging. Most people want to love and be loved, but to road to that is far from easy. I have learned plenty about that. Love Through Bipolar is a story of love through mental illness, something I thought I would never face, but yet I didn’t see it as the impossibility I imagined it would be.
Love doesn’t have to be hard. You just have to be open to it. Are you open to love? If not, what is holding you back? Friendships are also important- they can help hold you together when the world seems to be falling apart. What do your friendships look like? Is it time to do a friendship inventory and maybe see which ones are and are not working for you?
Esteem. It is always nice to be recognized, right? This can be at work, through a hobby, whatever you may be involved in. I’ve done a lot of work on myself in the self-esteem and self-respect department, and it has been worth it.
Why? I am worth it. Lots of therapy, about a thousand Pins, and a song list later, I have realized this. Everyone deserves to feel good about themselves. I’ve written quite a few guest posts to this effect. What have you done in the last week to make you feel good about yourself? When was the last time you didn’t feel like you were worth taking care of? Why?
I’ve even celebrated the growth of this blog, because it’s very important to me. I’m really proud of it and myself, and that post is Progress Report
Self-actualization. This is about becoming the best you that you can be- another picture that I saw of this part of the pyramid discussed creativity, which is one of my favorite things.
One of my favorite creative outlets is coloring- I have a stack of adult coloring books. I like mandalas the most. This started out as an outlet for anxiety and it’s still a very good outlet. I also color when I’m bored and sometimes when I am depressed. It takes me out of whatever is bothering me and usually when I am done, I’m feeling a lot better. Everyone knows not to bother me unless there’s a broken bone or blood involved. Journaling also has the same effect, which I discuss in The Joys of Journaling
How can you become the best version of yourself? What do you think that entails?
Meeting your needs is very important to live a full, healthy life. These questions may help the journey to get there.
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Hierarchy pic courtesy of Google