My Kids and College

I’ve got three intelligent kids with different personalities. Like many parents, I’ve thought a lot about sending them to college-besides the tuition.

My First Idea

I want my kids to live full, healthy and happy lives. I want them to find a career they love and pursue it. This usually includes college, and when the discussions started some time ago, I let them know that all of them would be going.

I explained that college is not cheap, that since they’re so close in age and that Dad and I are not millionaires (at least not yet), they will have to work, get grants, scholarships or something similar.

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I took out student loans, but I’d rather my kids not do so because the rates are outrageous and I am still paying them off. It was well worth it because I have had a great career.

Changing My Mind

Julian is not a fan of school. He’s in the 7th grade and while he doesn’t protest going, he isn’t the most excited about it. He does his work, isn’t disruptive or aggressive, and tries his best. These factors are the most important to me, considering his diagnoses.

He told me that he doesn’t want to go to college. He just wants to finish high school, get a job similar to his dad’s and live a quiet life with his cat. (He knows Tails won’t live forever, so he plans to get a new cat once Tails leaves us.)

I’m okay with this. I told him that if he finds a job that he likes, it’s legal and pays his bills, I’m good. Matthew is a delivery driver for a local company and Julian is fascinated by what he does.

Our school system has programs for kids that don’t want to go to college because college isn’t for everyone. There’s even a heavy machinery program that might be the program for him. Julian’s always been into taking things apart.

Cameron applied for a high school that has an auto collision program, and the other has a patient technician program that he’s interested in. We will find out in March or April where he’s been accepted.

The Final Theory

Thanks to Julian, that new theory has spread to all three kids. I’m not entirely sure where Cameron stands on college. He’s nervous about high school. Most kids are, so we have talked about a few things.

Lily has talked about becoming a paleontologist, and that requires a lot of colleges. She loves history, so even if that isn’t her final decision, I can see her doing something in that field.

College is a difficult topic without trying to force it upon your child, so I think I have it handled.

Probably. For now, at least.

This might change next week, so stay tuned.

What are your thoughts on sending your children to college? How do they feel about it? Share your thoughts in the comments!

Twin Mummy and Daddy

10 thoughts on “My Kids and College

  1. Alyssa - Queerly Texan says:

    I think it’s great that you aren’t forcing college onto your kids! I know far too many people at my college who never wanted to go, and don’t want to be there now, but they feel like their parents forced them to. It definitely isn’t for everyone and I think more people should be accepting of that like you.

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  2. diynige says:

    It’s difficult but our children will folllw their path in life all we can do is support this and that is enough Thanks for linking to #Thatfridaylinky hope to see you next week

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  3. educatinghayley says:

    Sounds like you have handled it perfectly. College isn’t for everyone and at the end of the day each person has to make their own decision #ThatFridayLinky

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  4. Mother of Teenagers says:

    My eldest is in his second year at University and wouldn’t change it for the world – apart from the loan which sadly is part of the territory. My youngest is also keen to go when her time comes, influenced by the wonderful stories of fun and freedom that her brother shares. They both have a love of learning and experiencing life and my husband and I have always advocated University based on our own wonderful experiences and the opportunities it presented, but have never impressed on them that they have to go. They have to want to do it for themselves and as such it has to be their choice. #TweensTeensBeyond

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