Spring is FINALLY here! Yay! Let’s welcome it with some great reads.
Spring is FINALLY here! Yay! Let’s welcome it with some great reads.
I’ve always struggled with my name- Wrae Meredith. My dad thought it would be cute to throw in a W of front of Rae.. and here we are, 36 years later. It’s been spelled wrong and I’ve even been called “Mr. Sanders” which is a bit infuriating.
Meredith is a bit better, but to me, still old-fashioned. I didn’t use it for anything before this blog. Shout out to my mom and dad for being true 1980s era parents and giving me a weird name when my older sisters got decent ones. Ugh.
When the kids showed up, I wasn’t going to let this issue happen. I wanted something not too common, but still cool.
All three kids have easy-to-spell and pronounce names. It turns out Lillian is a much more popular name than I thought! Their middle names- Matthew, Kenneth, and Evette, are family names.
Matthew let me pretty much take over in this area. He didn’t like my initial pick for Julian’s middle name- Blake, so Kenneth was chosen thanks to his grandmother.
Julian thinks his name is a bit weird because he hasn’t met anyone else with it, but I’m sure he will at some point. We have met other Camerons and many Lilys, and a couple of Lillian, both with different spellings.
It can be annoying to be the kid in class who gets “the look” when a substitute teacher can’t pronounce your name. It gets embarrassing when your name is misspelled repeatedly throughout your life. Your name might have a cool story behind it but that coolness fades when you have to constantly spell and/or pronounce it for others.
Your name can also impact how people see you before they even lay eyes on you. This entirely sucks, but it happens. People see a name and automatically assume things about you that aren’t true.
Identities don’t entirely revolve around your name, but it definitely plays a part. Today’s PSA: Please think out your child’s name before it hits the birth certificate.
Lily has two friends with the name Isabella- one goes by Bella and the other by Isabella. Apparently, that name has been wildly popular. Matthew has one of the most popular names of all time, so he does not get the frustration that I have felt about my name.
Sometimes it can feel like you blend in with everyone else and you have to stick out in other ways. Ashley, my best friend, has felt this way. I have a lot of friends named Ashley.
I also have a lot of friends named Sara or Sarah- in fact, when Sara and I became friends, I put her in my phone as “Sara S (Jake’s Cousin)” because it helped me keep her separate from others. She is still listed that way on my phone, almost four years later.
I’m sure this can get annoying- being one of three kids with the same name in your class or just not feeling unique. I guess it’s all about how you see it.
Do you have an uncommon name? How do you feel about it? Did you choose an uncommon name for your child?
I wrote a post a while back about having chronic illnesses and being a mom. Chronic Conditions and Momming was written before my rheumatoid arthritis diagnosis.
1. My older sister has lupus and we had the same rheumatologist at one point. Once we discovered this, we thought it was hilarious. There’s a lot of rheumatologists in Louisville, and we ended up with the same one?
2. My grandfather had severe RA. He died in 2016 at the age of 83. His hands were curled up from the severe joint deformities. He took medications for it, but still had issues that weren’t able to be reversed.
3. I am currently taking a mild medication daily. I had to wait for my thyroid meds to be regulated before I could start RA meds. That sucked but things are good in this area. (Short version: I’m on Levothyroxine due to a partial thyroidectomy in 2017.) Joint pain is REAL.
4. My biggest issues? Joint pain in my hands, knees, and hips. Like many others, I’m super stiff in the mornings and it takes at least an hour to loosen up. Hot showers help. Moving around does help but also hurts. Eventually, the stiffness goes away. Usually. If it doesn’t, then it’s a bad pain day, which leads me to #5.
5. I don’t like taking pain meds. They make me tired and nobody has time for that mess. I usually won’t take them unless I can barely move. I’ll use a heating pad, massage, stretch, etc. The pain meds I do have, however, are non-narcotic.
My doctor is pretty smart- probably not a good idea to prescribe a recovering alcoholic hardcore narcotics. She probably enjoys having a license to practice.
Rheumatoid arthritis sucks. I hate missing out on things because I’m tired, hurting, or both.
It’s possible to live life with chronic conditions. I have two. Some days are just worse than others. I can get through them with humor and my support system.
If you have a chronic condition, how do you get through it?
Opinions are everywhere.
So are your kid’s toys, the cat’s litter and the contents of your purse.
Or is that just me?
Maybe. Maybe not.
It’s a weird world that we live in- everyone has something to say. Some of us feel the need to live up to expectations that aren’t exactly healthy.
I am not one of those parents.
I was many moons ago, and there’s a post to tell that story.
Babies are adorable. They’re all soft, cuddly and you just want to hold them forever.
Until that first blowout diaper. I’m here to tell you, it’s one of the many gross things you will witness as a parent. Once you see that diaper, you will want to cry and throw the whole day away. As in hit the restart button and pause right before your baby created that horrible mess.
They sleep about as much as cats, at least for a while. Once they sleep all night, life becomes somewhat decent again. Then comes the solid food stage, in which they insist on smearing everywhere. It makes for great pictures but horrible cleanup. Babies also become mobile, and that’s when the real fun begins. It’s when we stop being able to have nice things.
Toddlers are known to be tiny terrors. They can destroy your home in about 15 seconds or less if given the opportunity. They also have the capacity to be the cutest little people you will ever lay eyes on. “Oh, wait, I have a voice and it gets loud? Wait, hold my sippy cup while I scream because Mom changed the channel.”
My friend Melanie had a hashtag #ReasonsWhyMyToddlerIsCrying while her son Elliott was a toddler and it was one of the funniest things I’ve ever seen. My kids threw wild tantrums and I am glad I lived through this phase.. barely. I went through three toddlers in a short amount of time.
How can you survive this phase?
This stage is kind of fun. Kids at this age want to learn about everything. They ask a million and two questions before lunch, and they’re learning to express themselves. This might be about the time they learn to dress. That can be a lot of fun- I had a blast with Lily’s outfits. They’re also learning to interact with others outside their family.
I didn’t think about how expensive preschool was until both boys were in it together. YIKES. It’s not getting any cheaper, so if that’s your thing, you might want to start looking into it when your child is an infant if they aren’t already in daycare.
My kids never went to daycare. Their grandmothers watched them while I worked and finished school then went straight to preschool. Julian had a rough time in preschool, but Cameron and Lily did great. Lily’s road to preschool was not an easy one thanks to her delays. We almost didn’t get her potty trained in time.
Speaking of potty training…
How do you get through this phase?
I may joke about it now, but I was sad about sending my kids to school. I cried a little when Lily went to her first day of kindergarten because she’s my youngest and I realized my 5 lb, 12 oz baby wasn’t really a baby anymore. It was a little crushing. She’s now months away from middle school. I may or may not cry at her 5th-grade graduation.
Some kids do not do well with the kindergarten adjustment. Julian was one of those kids. He was diagnosed later that year and that helped somewhat. Kindergarten is a big change- the building, more adults, kids, the routine, and more. Julian is not a fan of big changes, so this was not on his list of fun things to do. He did better in the other years.
Kids in this stage grow so quickly! I sent Cameron to elementary school in 2010 and he finished in 2015 almost as tall as me! They learn a lot, make friends and lots of things in the middle.
How do you get through your baby not being a baby anymore?
If you’ve seen my Instagram page, this is one of my often-used hashtags. Middle school is a struggle, for parents and kids. Kids are trying to figure out who they are, what their bodies are doing, and as parents, we’re just trying to make sure they’re okay and keeping them fed.
If you have boys, the last one can be a challenge. I have two- I don’t know where the food goes but the wrappers are everywhere.
Kids are smarter than we realize. They, for the most part, are more accepting than many adults are. I think it is a combination of not caring and how they are taught. I’ve done my best to teach my kids to accept others for who they are and not what they look like or what their racial makeup is. I’ve been the kid left out because I was biracial and that is damaging. I would never let my kids do that to someone else.
The struggles? There are many- smelly feet, testosterone, explaining racism and other injustices, discussing drugs and alcohol (especially when you are 2 years sober), homework, grades in general and lots more.
This is the age in which kids start learning from their friends and not asking Mom or Dad about everything- Cameron learned about bisexuality from a friend of his. I guess when you’re 14, this is on the list of things you don’t ask Mom about.
How does this phase work?
Parenting is an adventure. It is not meant to be easy. We are, however, meant to have the children that we were given. I didn’t realize this until Julian was diagnosed.
I thought I had completely messed up as a mom and maybe even as a person, but no, I was given Julian to become a stronger person and much better mom. Enjoy the ride- our kids only get one childhood!
Do you have any tips to get through these stages of childhood? Leave a comment!
Our kids do a lot of things to annoy us, even if we don’t want to admit it. They invade our space in the bathroom. They wear our bras on their heads, ask us the wildest things ever in public and delight in the looks we get from others, and my personal favorite: wait until the night before a major project is due to even start it.
Ugh. I cannot be the only mom out there with these thoughts.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids. I’ve spent nights sleeping in very uncomfortable hospital chairs with Cameron after an SVT episode. I cried for two days after Lily’s First Steps eval. I held Julian down for staples in his head after playing on a trampoline with Cameron and friends went terribly bad.
However, these kids annoy me. A lot.
Recently, I had the flu, along with both boys. If you follow my social media you may have laughed at the posts about this. They lay in bed, chugging Gatorade while I had a horrible fever, barely held down Sprite and almost coughed up my left lung. Once they felt better, they were back to bouncing around on my bed, making up for lost time.
Parenting can be tiring. It can wear our minds down a bit and we just want to have a little fun with our kids.
This is where annoying our kids come in. This does not consist of any kind of bullying, because that’s not my thing at all. Let’s knock that out. I’m talking wholesome fun where everyone laughs.
How does this work?
This is the fun part, especially if your kids are about 10 and up.
I am all about having fun with my kids- I try to squeeze it in when I can. They only get one childhood, right?
How do you annoy your kids? Share your thoughts in the comments!