I’ve read a lot about parenting.
I’ve been a mom for fourteen years- Cameron was born in January 2005. (Yikes.)
There’s a lot of moms out there that try their hardest to demonstrate that parenting is easy.
I don’t know what planet they live on, but this is not easy.
Unless you are lucky enough to have nannies or other in-home help, you’re not sleeping much for a while after you have a baby. They aren’t the greatest sleepers. Some babies gracefully sleep all night at an early age and at that point, you may want to build a shrine to the parenting gods.
I almost did when Lily slept through the night before I went to work after her birth. Her brothers wouldn’t have thought about this.
The toddler and preschool years?
You love your kid, but are also ready to list them for sale on Etsy about three minutes after they terrify the cat.
This is the time where they learn so much and repeat things they probably shouldn’t. Break out the phones for those moments.
When kindergarten hits, be ready for tears.
Elementary school is full of fun and adventure… Just wait for the middle school. I’m currently there and, wow, is it full of things I never saw.
Pets, Stinky Feet and Sancti-Mommies
We’ve had a few pets along the way. Tiger was with us for a few months and sadly, we had to say goodbye after a tumor ruptured on his leg.
It was bad enough to make that decision, but it was worse to have to tell the kids. I couldn’t fix Tiger’s leg and keep him with us.
Tails and Miss Purr, along with the turtles, Biggie Smalls and Lightning, complete our house. We love them- they are family members.
Stinky feet are everywhere at my house. These kids are gross. They shower all the time.
The preteen and teenage stage…
There’s so many things to explain- drugs, alcohol, mean girls and boys, sex, and the list goes on. As Ferris Bueller once said, “Life moves pretty fast.
He wasn’t kidding.
Then, there’s the moms that think their way is the best and that they are better than everyone else.
They have tons to learn.
First of all, should they have a child with any kind of special needs, they are entirely screwed. Your mindset changes and throwing shade at other moms isn’t going to give you the support you are going to need.
Once these moms become known for their less-than-polite ways, who really wants to be within a mile of that?
As Ariana Grande says, thank you, next.
I’m all for research and opinions, but there are ways to express these respectfully. It’s possible to be nice and say what you think.
Parenting is the roughest job that many of us will ever have, unless you’re a first responder, logger, or something equally tough.
We need to stick together and remember all of us are doing the best we can. This goes for moms of newborns, elementary school-aged kids, even adults. It’s tough out there.
If you know a mom (or dad) who is struggling, try to help them out. It might be the best thing anyone does for them in a while.
Until next week, hang in there and try to laugh off your kid’s latest adventure.