After Thanksgiving Goodies

This is a good month- I love Thanksgiving. I am so happy to see Demi Lovato, one of my sobriety role models, out of rehab. Enjoy the posts and leftovers!

The Road to Authenticity

5 Ways to Conquer Self-Kindness

Healing Through Creativity: Art and Hippo Therapy

Broken Wings Part 5: What I Wish My Spouse Knew

Song Lyric Saturday with Britney Spears

Song Lyric Saturday with Whitney Houston

This week’s pick is a classic- Whitney Houston.

She played Savannah in one of my favorite movies- “Waiting to Exhale”. If you haven’t seen the movie and/or read the book, I highly recommend both. (Angela Bassett plays Bernadine, her bestie and does some serious damage to her soon-to-be ex-hubby’s clothes.. but I’ll stop there. It’s funny but not funny.) This movie is great. It’s funny, sad, and shows the joys of friendship.

After she died, the plans for the sequel “Getting To Happy” were pretty much scrapped because quite honestly, who could play Savannah? There is a book for that, too, and yes, read it. Terry McMillan is one of the best black authors out there.

Whitney Houston

Before she started acting, Whitney sang her heart out. Who didn’t listen to her music growing up in the ’90s? I loved “I Wanna Dance With Somebody”. I couldn’t pick a lyric for this one- it’s just a fun song and I loved dancing to it as a kid.

I remember dancing around my room and singing to it. My older sister made fun of me but I didn’t really care. She was so young and pretty and had awesome clothes. (Can you see a pattern with me loving people’s clothes?)

Sadly, Whitney had some issues with her personal life. Most of us know about her marriage to Bobby Brown and substance issues. She died of a reported drug overdose and her daughter, Bobbi Kristina, died not long after. I was so heartbroken, along with millions, to hear of both deaths. Her music lives on, however, as her legacy. It’s just a shame that her life went so badly for the last few years.

Do you have any favorites? Leave your favorites in the comments. 

Song Lyric Saturday with Fiona Apple

**Trigger Warning: sexual assault is briefly mentioned in this post.**

I saw Fiona Apple live years ago with my best friends, Ashley and Tyson. I’d share pictures, but I don’t think they are exactly blog-appropriate. I’ll leave it at that it was a very fun night and as usual, we had a few adventures that still make us laugh hysterically. We have been friends for many years (Tyson and I have known each other since elementary school) so this just adds to the comedy.

Fiona came onto the music scene in the late 1990s with her first album and many were like “Whoa, what is that?” I was one of many who thought that way. She has a low-pitched voice that makes you want to hear more, and I definitely wanted more. Tyson plays the piano very well, and he was wide-eyed at the concert. Ashley loved both aspects, so we were delighted at the concert.

Fiona Apple

I chose “Criminal” after some serious debate.

“I gotta cleanse myself of all these lies until I’m good enough for him”

That is some realness. Fiona was sexually assaulted at 12, and I can’t imagine the pain that causes, emotionally and physically. I’ve read that her music was an outlet for her afterward. Sometimes you feel so wretched, so dirty after something that awful, you have to clean yourself inside and out until you feel okay for someone to like or love you.

I can’t really speak for Fiona, but that’s the way I interpret it. In my own case, I had to confess everything that I did with Jake to Matthew and that was one of the worst conversations I’ve ever had. Tears were everywhere and it was awful. It took a long time before I could feel like I was good enough for him again. As my former therapist said, I’m still a good person- I did something that wasn’t good.

I’ve been able to make up for this in every way that I can- I would never cheat again.

Song Lyric Saturday with Blondie

I’m going back to the 80s this week with Blondie. I loved the 80s. I wore jelly sandals and other weird clothes. My kids think I’m a dinosaur.

I was born in late 1982, and I’ve often said I was born too late to really appreciate some of the best music of the decade- including this band. I loved Debbie Harry’s voice, hair, and clothes as a kid. I didn’t get the meaning behind the music because I was too young, of course, but who cared?

Debbie Harry- Blondie

“Once I had a love and it was a gas

Soon turned out had a heart of glass”

She wasn’t playing, not one bit. Basically, Debbie was saying she was not happy with being played with. She didn’t want to be pushed aside. She didn’t trust whoever she was singing about. This seems to be a common theme in music throughout the decades- what do you think?

Fake people aren’t cool, by the way, and I think that was part of her point. This could be a good message for today. #lovelessonfortheweek

Blondie was a great band if you’re in the mood for 80s music. I also recommend “Rapture”, mainly for Debbie’s rapping at the end. It’s fantastic.

Song Lyric Saturday with Blink-182

I’ve listened to Blink-182 since pretty much forever. I love drums and Travis Barker is #3 on my list behind Mick Fleetwood and Taylor Hawkins, both of who I have gushed about in previous posts. Travis, however, just happens to be cute while drumming. I saw one of those little 3 inch dolls on Instagram a few days ago and now it’s on my Christmas/birthday list.

I read Travis’ book, “Can I Say” a couple of years ago (because I like reading the memoirs of rock stars) and it was wild. He’s been through a lot- I said “wow” more than once. I don’t know how his arms still function because he goes so hard on the drums, he plays with so much passion. His son, Landon, is getting into the music scene. Is anyone surprised? I’m not.

Okay..enough about Travis, because I could go on about him all day.


I picked the song “I Miss You” for this week.

“Hello there the angel from my nightmare

The shadow in the background of the morgue

The unsuspecting victim

Of darkness in the valley

We can live like Jack and Sally if we want

Where you can always find me

And we’ll have Halloween on Christmas

In the night we’ll wish this never ends

We’ll wish this never ends”

It’s a bit dark, but basically, it’s about a man being in a very dark time in his life but he knows that the woman in his life loves him- she wants to love him through it. She’s in the background of the dark spots in his life, trying to bring him into the light.

They try to make things look good and wish the good times would come back and never go away. (Confession: I had to look up the lyrics for the Jack and Sally part because I didn’t quite get it but once I did, it made a lot of sense. Thanks, Google.)

These guys are so talented and I’d love to see them in their Las Vegas residency.